Hi, I’m Seb.
Way before I was coaching entrepreneurs and top performers to develop their presence, charisma and ability to connect deeply with others, I was a small-town boy (Saint Jerome in Quebec, Canada) and for years I had precious few friends. I couldn’t understand it: I had a small core group of people who really loved me and who I really connected with and yet outside of that immediate circle was a social desert. All through school and work after that, I just wouldn’t click with others and I didn’t know how to make it click. I tried everything I could think of:
Trying to be perfect, above reproach…
Just because there’s nothing to hate, doesn’t mean there’s anything to love, either.
Trying to be interesting or funny…
Turns out, the best way to turn people off is to try and convince them how great you are.
Trying to be what I thought people wanted me to be…
Most of us can tell, even if only subconsciously, when someone is needy or inauthentic, and very few people find that endearing.
At work, I tried to be the smartest guy in the room so people would listen to me…
Would you be surprised if I told you it had the opposite effect?
Woof. Bad times, let me tell you.
It felt like I was born missing something that others seem to have. I tried to accept that that was just the way I was made.
Luckily, I couldn’t give up: I spent a lot of time, money and energy to find out how to develop authentically charisma, real presence, and to connect with others in a way that was meaningful. Along the way there were some were major pivots, insights that set me on a whole new path, and there were also smaller adjustments, feedback that helped me up my game while I was on that path. A lot of it was completely counter-intuitive for me at the time.
I can tell you the things I learned changed my life in amazing ways:
- At my job at the time I got promoted twice in rapid succession(with big raises) and took on leadership roles when a year before I just couldn’t see myself as a “leader.”
- I can walk into any room and strike up a conversation with strangers.
- I have a network of friends and connections that makes my life richer.
I won’t lie: it feels amazing to be able to do these things. That’s why it’s my goal in life to help others who are stuck like I was, who want a life where they make an impact and have amazing, fulfilling relationships.
If you read all that and you’d love to know more, we should talk. Click below to schedule a free 1-hour strategy session with me: